tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8033509487567584473.post6943622340761899866..comments2023-07-25T05:46:29.232-07:00Comments on I Cannot Be the Only One: The Verbal SideswipeI Cannot Be the Only One...http://www.blogger.com/profile/04900069651186448078noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8033509487567584473.post-26112115960485818232015-09-14T08:11:42.995-07:002015-09-14T08:11:42.995-07:00Adrian,
Thanks for that solid advice!
I am wor...Adrian, <br /><br />Thanks for that solid advice! <br /><br />I am working on letting things roll of my back, as you suggested, I didn't really feel better after I confronted my friend...actually I felt worse. I wonder where my friendship would be now if I had just let the comments go and moved on, hindsight, right?<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by and for sharing your words of wisdom :)I Cannot Be the Only One...https://www.blogger.com/profile/04900069651186448078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8033509487567584473.post-20877946578171163602015-09-13T16:57:13.942-07:002015-09-13T16:57:13.942-07:00I worked with a personal coach for a while and one...I worked with a personal coach for a while and one of the best things she taught me was to stand back and ask myself - how can I see this person as innocent? We are always quick to jump to the wrong conclusion and build a case of "facts" that we are positive are true, but often times, there is a hidden piece of the puzzle that we didn't know about, or something about their motives that we didn't understand. Giving someone the benefit of the doubt is always a good choice and just figuring they are having a bad day, maybe their kid was really upset by what was said or done and she is feeling protective, or maybe she just wasn't thinking. I generally will let things like this just roll off my back because I know how embarrassing it is when you get into a fuss like this with someone. Now, if it's an ongoing pattern, then it's time to step away, but even then, I just do it quietly by just drifting out of the relationship. I had to do that with an OCD friend of mine recently and it was hard. She's such a good person and I really enjoyed being friends with her, but when you're dealing with major issues like that, you have to totally run the relationship on her terms and I just wasn't up for it any more. Her social anxiety issues ruined many an outing, so I finally decided I needed to just step back from it and let her be who she is. AdriansCrazyLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04463022076036044242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8033509487567584473.post-71886718965600024462015-09-12T13:11:46.577-07:002015-09-12T13:11:46.577-07:00Hey Kristina,
Things are pretty weird between th...Hey Kristina, <br /><br />Things are pretty weird between that particular friend and I now. I am actively trying to make it better but...so far, not so good.<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by and for the positive vibes...I can always use some!I Cannot Be the Only One...https://www.blogger.com/profile/04900069651186448078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8033509487567584473.post-87895388995917508582015-09-12T07:41:52.175-07:002015-09-12T07:41:52.175-07:00Hang in there---we all have bad days. I don't...Hang in there---we all have bad days. I don't think I've ever had another mom "Tattle"...this lady probably didn't think through how her words would affect you. I'm surprised she cried as I doubt you came out guns blazing! Maybe she was also having a bad day. Were you able to calm her down and leave things okay? Or will it be awkward the next time you see her? Man, social crap at our age is so hard. It makes me want to stay home and close the curtains LOL ps--I also run conversations on loop in my head. But while you were replaying the morning convo, she probably hadn't given it a second thought. It's hard to turn off the cycle...sending you positive vibes :) :) -kristiina Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02859978829810609225noreply@blogger.com